“I can tell you this, I am not a perfect son, father, brother, or friend in sobriety, but my father has his son back. My daughter has a real father who shows up and loves her, when friends see me they want to spend time with me, I bring value to my friendships. Today I have my self back.”
Maintaining an active lifestyle and exercising is essential for overall health and well-being. This is especially true for those in recovery. This should come as no surprise to anyone reading this article. Why then, do so many people struggle to make time to exercise?
Several years ago we had two members of our family hit their respective bottoms in rapid succession. For me, this was a brand new experience. Of course, I had put my family through the turmoil, horror, and pain of dealing with the consequences of my own alcoholism 12 years earlier. Until I had the experience first hand of watching a family member go through their struggles with addiction, I didn’t have the empathy or compassion necessary to really understand the anguish I had caused those that loved me.
Within the family, we develop patterns of behavior and styles of relating that form the basis of our future social interactions and relationships. When a family's ability to cope with stressors and process traumatic experience breaks down many of its members may begin to exhibit symptoms of substance and process addiction, suicidality, depression, and a host of other challenges.
The Transtheoretical Model of Change is currently the most complete picture we have in psychology to explain how and why individuals are able to create and sustain behavioral or attitudinal changes in their lives. It is my hope that by helping the reader to better understand this model I can help you to better understand the behavior of a loved one suffering from addiction.